Sticks & stones – how words can help or hinder your weightloss journey.
Words can be so powerful. They can build you up, rip you down, make you smile or bring you to tears.
This week on social media & with my clients, I’ve been focussing on the language I use and the words my clients use.
“What’s that got to do with personal training or fitness?” you may ask.
Did you see the Facebook name test this week that gave you a quote based on your details? My quote was:
“Being happy doesn’t always mean getting what you want. It means loving what you have, and being thankful for it.”
This really does apply to your body, health and fitness too.
If you don’t love what you have now, the journey is more difficult.
Think back to a project that you’ve worked on, at home or work, that you HATED.
^^^ that’s a strong word I know!
Remember what you thought about working on that project, how you resented the time it took, put it off as much as possible and didn’t give it your best efforts.
If you keep telling yourself you HATE your body – it’s just the same.
How can you care, nourish, motivate and enhance something you HATE???
Now think of a project you’ve loved doing – a hobby, something at home or work or elsewhere. You couldn’t wait to spend time on it, loved every second you spent on it, found ways to work round any difficulties, positively cheered at the successes.
^^^ wouldn’t it be great to feel like that about your body?
When was the last time you said something kind to YOURSELF?
It’s much easier to pick up on our negativities, our insecurities, our weaknesses and, of course – the big one – our FAILURES.
Thing is, we can take those same words and turn them round into something positive.
In another article, I shared 2 words that ruined my year last year. Straightforward words that we use everyday. This prompted a great discussion amongst my clients and the phrase they most wanted to turn around was “I give up”.
So next time you give up on your efforts, your body, your fitness regime or anything else personal what about choosing to:
– GIVE UP the negative way you talk to yourself
– GIVE UP the unrealistic expectations you place on yourself
– GIVE UP trying to be like someone else – be You!
– GIVE UP measuring your standards and body by what you see presented on social media.
Say those affirmations out loud!
Does it feel different using those “give up” words in this positive way?
When you start to talk kindly to yourself and remove the artificial yardsticks of trying to be like others, your health and wellbeing journey not only becomes easier….it becomes more FUN!
This next week, the word we’ll be focusing on is “can’t”. All too often we use this word to protect ourselves from a fear of failure. I see this physically in so many people.
“I can’t do that”
“I can’t do a press-up”
“I can’t squat properly”
It’s my job to take those ‘I can’t’ phrases, understand the mental and physical blocks behind them and rephrase them.
Here my words as a coach are incredibly important. The language I use will make the difference between someone finishing a session feeling like they’ve achieved something amazing or feeling rubbish…..by the way, the second of those 2 is just not an option!
So can you get through this next week without saying “can’t”? Can you say something kind to yourself everyday? See what difference that makes to your week.
Lisa is a personal trainer specialising in female health. From pregnancy & post-natal to peri-menopause and beyond. Offering private coaching, semi-private training and Pilates at Custom Fitness and Hykeham Chiropractic. For further information, please see www.optimum-health.me.uk and Facebook pages MyOptiMumHealth & CustomFitnessUK.